17 July 2008
Communicable Diseases
Posted by
Esha
under:
Open Discussions .
com·mu·ni·ca·ble (k?-my??’n?-k?-b?l) Pronunciation Key 
adj.
Transmittable between persons or species; contagious: communicable diseases.
Readily communicated: communicable ideas. Talkative.
Usually when you read about ‘communicable disease’ it’s in regards to exactly what it states, ‘diseases’. But I think it reaches even farther than that.
In my opinion, I believe miscommunication is a “communicable disease”, especially in relationships/friendships/fuckerships/ whatever the situation that causes a need for COMMUNICATION. Miscommunication between men and women is a well known fact. So you’ll always have a battle of the sexes on who communicates better, men vs. women.
Now, I’m not going to sit here and say that women communicate better than men or vice versa, but I will say the lack of proper communication is what can definitely kill any type of relationship.
Communication should not consist of vague-ity, devauling a person’s question, lies/half-truths/omission of information..etc..etc. I remember someone telling me recently ,”Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to”…If questions are asked, they’re asked for a reason. To devalue a question is not a form of communication.
I think that emotional intelligence and maturity plays a huge role in effective communication. Emotional intelligence isn’t always synonymous with age though. I know 8 yr old kids who communicate better than some grown women and men. If you look at the interactions with kids, they’re no holds barred when it comes to how they communicate their feelings. They say what they have to say.
Once people rid themselves of the communicable disease of miscommunication, maybe more relationships, no matter what type they are, will thrive and grow.
What’s your approach in communication? Do you feel women are better communicators than men?
3 Comments so far...
Yashieka
Says:
17 July 2008 at 8:31 am.
YES! Some women (not all) are better communicators than men. I blame it our society. All you have to do is look around and listen to men talk to each other. “I’m not doing that, that’s GAY,” or ” You ain’t real man.” Men don’t want to associated with anything that may give the appearance of weakness.
We raise women to communicate how they feel, while we raise men to “quit being a pussy and suck it up.” Well after years of being told to suck it up and not learning how to communicate how one feels, it’s no wonder some men have a difficult time communicating.
If some of those men had sense they would know communicating how one feels (effectively) doesn’t show weakness it shows maturity.
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LAMONT
Says:
17 July 2008 at 3:24 pm.
True indeed, all people have to learn to communicate properly and effectively. Just because you talking doesnt mean you’re an effective communicator, it’s all about what you say and how you say it.
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Keyshia
Says:
18 July 2008 at 1:03 am.
I think alot of what comes from inside a person has to do with their level of security. If you’re always walled up or holding back, then you’ll probably do more of talking than communicating. Those people who take chances with events, people and relationships e.t.c. are more likely to communicate than just talk.
I think Yashieka is right because women seem to have an easier time expressing their feelings than men do.
Musiq Soulchild’s song “Teach Me” comes to mind …
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