2 July 2008
Reflection: Yesha’s Story
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Esha
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HERstory; Reflection .
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Everyone deserves options, is what I always told my ex. Give me the chance to decide what behavior I’m willing to deal with and what behavior I won’t stand for. There are some women out there who are fine with the fact that some men may not want to be in a monogamous relationship. There are some men who put their true intentions out there, so as the other party will know what and what not to expect. Those are the men I can respect.
“You did nothing wrong”, was one of the last things he said to me. Funny though, I didn’t need any confirmation of that. I did everything I was supposed to do and more, without hesitation. Do I regret anything that’s happened? No. For me, everything is a learning experience. I will not let this sour me in any future relationships. I’ve also learned that if another woman approaches you in regards to information about your ‘man’, to listen to what she has to say, becaus more likely than not, it will prove valuable in the long run.
But I’m sure you’re asking, why the title “Men Ain’t Shit”?
Simply put, because some of them aren’t and honestly the title, “Some Men Ain’t Shit”, is just to damn long.
But on the flip side, there are those men and women who aren’t worth a mouse’s fart, my remedy for that? Let them eventually find each other. Good men and good women deserve better. They deserve to be given options, they deserve respect and most importantly WE deserve honesty and reciprocity.
In the end, I will survive. His loss. Someone else’s gain.
3 Comments so far...
Yashieka
Says:
1 July 2008 at 9:33 pm.
I stand behind you 100%. If he had said in the beginning, Yesha, I’m going to see other women while I’m dating you, it would’ve been different. Then you would have the option to CHOOSE whether you would accept his decision to run the streets. Because he was selfish, he took that option away from you. I’ve always said, I would sleep with the man who tells me he just wants the puzzy, than a man who pretends he’s in it for the long haul. We live and we learn and then press on!
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nunya
Says:
2 July 2008 at 10:01 am.
thats the way it should be… but you see… women and men are FAR TOO DIFFERENT to see things the same way more often than not.
Most men wouldnt dream of telling a woman that they are dating that they want to see other women AND them at the same time… why? i have no idea?
at least you have learned from it so it wasnt a total and complete waste of your emotion and time.
and why not “men aint shit” ??
if Too $hort can sing about “bitches aint shit” then you can write “men aint shit” all you want lol… at least u called them men… some dont deserve that much… some of them should be called bitches too!
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Yashieka Reply:
July 2nd, 2008 at 10:52 am
HI FIVE NUNYA! if Too $hort can sing about “bitches aint shit” then we can write “men aint shit.” If you know you ain’t shit you don’t have anything to worry about!
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