10 July 2008
To Good To Be True…WTF?
Posted by
Shieka
under:
Open Discussions .
Apparently I have a history with men that think I’m “too good to be true.” No, I’m not trying to be cocky, I’m just reciting what’s been told to me. I went home to New York for the 4th of July Holiday. While I was there, I talked to my high school sweetheart. We talked in length about what happened in our relationship. The abridged version of why we broke up - he wanted to have an open relationship AND he didn’t treat me the way I deserved to be treated. Oh yea, he cheated on me THREE times. One would think after the second time he cheated, I would’ve walked away, but, that’s for another post.
Let’s keep it moving Yashieka, keep it moving. Ladies and gentlemen, Shuab (Shu - way) Brooks, apologized for how he treated me and proceeded to tell me I was the BEST girlfriend he ever had. “You had my back 110%.” Isn’t that what a girlfriend is supposed to do? Have her man’s back? OK, let’s keep it moving. He then proceeded to tell me that I was one of the best things that happened to him and he has never had someone treat him the way I did. “You were too good to be true and I couldn’t believe someone could actually have my back like that.” Then he said it, “I’ve been looking for you all over and promised myself if I ever found you, I would do any and everything to get you back. Tell me what I have to do to get you back with you.”
*DEAD SILENCE*
WTF?
While I was HAPPY he told me all those nice things, I felt like he wasn’t telling me anything new. I’ve went over our relationship in my head. I came to the conclusion there was nothing I could’ve done different. I loved him hard. He was a street thug and I was his “WIFE.” He was in and out of trouble, even got sent away upstate. Who was there waiting for him when he got home? Yashieka. Again, Yashieka accepted him as is and as a result she got her heart broken AGAIN! There seems to be a trend here. *Accept a man as is, he tramples on your heart.* Hmmmmm, mental note..Don’t ever accept a man as is AND only give him 60% of “YOU.”
So my question is, Why is it when a man (or woman, can go both ways also) finds someone that’s “too good to be true” they end up breaking that person’s heart instead of just loving them up?
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Keyshia
Says:
10 July 2008 at 7:20 am.
Maybe because he didnt feel he was “good enough” to be with you, he thought he’d break your heart before you broke his. Or maybe when someone loves you “”too” much and they are perfect, you assume that they’ll always be there to take your crap and never leave no matter how bad it gets. 
How wrong can one get?
Oh, and by the way, dont let him convince you he’s seen the light. You never know how long that light will keep shining lol and with his track record, he could cheat on you the FOURTH time!!!
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Yesha
Says:
10 July 2008 at 11:48 am.
I think people use that as a cop out. People are always looking for something ‘better’ than what they have…you know the whole ‘grass is greener….’…then once they realize it’s been fertilized with shit, they want to come running back to what they had…men and women a like.
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Devone
Says:
10 July 2008 at 12:14 pm.
I don’t think its a cop-out. You have to meet people at that right moment in time I believe. Maybe you were at a point in your life when you were ready to be monogomous and he wasn’t. Some of us guys get tired of having different women and then most of us don’t. But there is a time when we will feel its time to settle down, but it will be on our schedule not necessarily a females, you know……….
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Yashieka Reply:
July 10th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
The hell if it ain’t a cop-out. You have to meet people at that right moment in time (I wanna make sure the grass ain’t greener on the other side and I’m not settling). In other words, I want to swe my oats and when I’m tired then I’ll holla at a shorter like that. BBBBBBBBBBBUUUUUULLLLLLLLLLLL SSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHHIIIIIIIIIITT
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Devone
Says:
10 July 2008 at 4:56 pm.
Maybe that has happened to you too many times cuz you sound kinda salty about that lol……..that statement goes for females too you know……I was talking from a guys’ perspective, but really what are you goin to do - seriously, make someone commit to you! Not going to happen…………
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LAMONT
Says:
12 July 2008 at 10:54 am.
Its something I like to call, “Too much like right”.
I’ve definitely been guilty of it(please put away the guns, dang..lol). Ultimately its all about mindset, for some it is looking for something better, but for me it was about allowing myself to be loved, and looking back I realize I was in a shitty place and didn’t love myself a whole lot, so how could I reciprocate something I wasnt doing for myself. I think for different people its different things, but it boils down to mindset.
“To be loved, to be loved, ohh what a feeling to be loved…” a la Coming To America
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Yesha Reply:
July 12th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
I think you hit the nail on the head exactly, “…didn’t love myself a whole lot, so how could I reciprocate something I wasn’t doing for myself…”!!!
Many people don’t even realize that they don’t love themselves, until they take a nice long look in the mirror!
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Yashieka Reply:
July 12th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
Lamont, as long as you’re honest with yourself and can admit when you’ve made a mistake you won’t get shots fired at you. How can you love someone else, when you don’t love yourself? The problem is not many people take the time to analyze why they won’t let allow themselves to be loved. It starts there…self evaluation.
I LOVE the idea of someone loving me up and day and night :-).
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introspectivegoddess
Says:
19 July 2008 at 8:03 pm.
Short answer….men are just assholes!!!
No but seriously if a man or woman cant see whats right in front of them then they are right they dont deserve you…and they arent good enough…it shouldnt be hard to do someone right who does right by you…if you cant then you just dont want good things in your life and your an asshole….point blank period!
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Yashieka Reply:
July 10th, 2008 at 12:25 pm
I’m with you Yesha. Some men always think the grass is greener on the other side. Then they shit on the good grass when the go out and try to find greener pastures. Then as you said….when they find out that they were using that bad fertilizer on the new grass and it’s all brown with patches, they wanna run back home.
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