5 August 2008

Childhood Friends: Tiffany’s Story

Posted by Shieka under: HERstory .

Names, dates, and locations have been changed per request of the author.

We’ve been friends for as long as I can remember. He used to just come over and hang out at my house after school. I was never attracted to him, that’s until one cold November night. After years of friendship, I saw “Reggie” in a different light. I never realized how attractive he was until that moment. Why had I not seen “HIM” before? Maybe there was a reason…sometimes its better not to cross that line when it comes to friendships.

I regret the day I decided to the cross that line. I thought because of our friendship, having a relationship with Reggie would be easy. I was SO wrong. We started out just having casual sex. A romp here, a romp there. Then we both started to develop feelings for each other. That’s when things started to get out of control. We would have arguments about everything. We would love hard and fight hard.

Then the unthinkable happened. One day during an argument, he grabbed me and started to hit me. I was in shock! Kenny was at the house and if it wasn’t for him pulling Reggie off me, I don’t know where I would be right now. Even with that said, we reconciled. We continued to have out arguments mainly because I didn’t trust him. I found his phone in the bathroom floor and picked it up just as a text message came across the screen. The message read, “So you don’t want to have sex with me anymore?” My mouth dropped open, the sender of the message? The mother of his child. Many things ran through my head, was he still having sex with her? However, he told me it was over between them. Why would he lie to me?

When I brought it up to him, the first thing that came out of his mouth was “you’re not my girl, you don’t have the right to ask me questions like that, you’re a bum b*tch for going through my phone.” I couldn’t believe he had said those words to me! I’ve known this man for years, I may have not been his girlfriend, and I did consider myself his friend.

We had break-ups to make-ups and then one day I had enough. Or should I saw, SHE gave me the information I needed to end things with him. SHE was the other female Reggie was supposed to go see in ATL the SAME weekend I invited him to go to Florida with my family. SHE told me how they’ve been talking for months. Of course, when he was confronted with the story, the first words out of his mouth were “you’re not my girl, you don’t have the right to ask me questions like that, and you’re crazy for going through my stuff.” He was correct, I wasn’t his girl and I was crazy to think after years of friendship that he would be honest with me.

It took years to build our friendship and 8 months for him to destroy it….

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