4 September 2008
Why I Cheat…One Man’s Story of Getting Away With It
Posted by
Yashieka
under:
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The following letter was sent to DDHG from a man that’s been cheating on his wife for FIVE years!
Why I Cheat - One Man’s Story of Getting Away With It
Dear DDHG,
I’m a guy and I really enjoy your site. I get to learn a lot about the way women think and see things in relationships. I don’t want you to think I’m a ***, but I cheat on my wife and I’ve been doing it for about 5 years.
Don’t get me wrong. My wife is a great person and over the years we’ve had a lot of great times together, but I always wanted more. I’ll never divorce her, but I can’t picture myself just having sex with her for the rest of my life. From time to time, I need something different and to get it I do what I can - go to strip clubs, pay prostitutes or pick up girls at bars.
You probably think I’m the biggest ***. Why don’t I just divorce my wife and I can do all of this stuff without hurting anyone? Because I don’t want to hurt her. If she knew what I was doing she would be disappointed in me and upset and I can’t risk that. If she were to ever find out, she would leave me for sure.
I guess I’m just a man. The kind that wants to be with different women when the mood strikes me. I don’t think I’m hurting anyone because no one knows about it except me and the woman I’m cheating with. That’s as far as it goes.
I wanted to tell all the women out there that their men may be doing this too, discreetly cheating and thinking they’ll never be found out.
Look, I’ve gotten away with it for five years and I don’t see myself stopping anytime soon and if I can do it, any man can.
Sincerely,
Jeff from California
DO YOU SEE A PROBLEM WITH THIS?
8 Comments so far...
Yesha
Says:
4 September 2008 at 12:53 pm.
Now doesn’t he sound like Adrian? LOL! But I don’t buy the whole ‘never getting caught’ deal. They always think they never get caught. Who’s to say that a certain type of woman allow their behaviour? Who’s to say his wife doesn’t know and just accepts it b/c of the convenience of the marriage. Unfortunately there are women like that. Like he said, he doesn’t want to be looked upon in the wrong way. Typical sociopathic behaviour. They never see the wrong in what they do, but they don’t want to look bad to others.
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true2me
Says:
4 September 2008 at 3:29 pm.
his issue is his alone. He is a slut and his self esteem comes from his penis. He needs to find another way to feel good about himself. He is hurting her indirectly by exposing her to diseases and what not..condoms are not 100 percent safe, and I doubt his trifling behind is even using them all the time
he is the ultimate selfish person…and he WILL pay for what he is doing to not only her..but the women he is using as well
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Devone Brown
Says:
5 September 2008 at 10:06 am.
All the replies above should be expected and I know this a site that focuses on men, but I want to hear from a female that cheats on her husband and is keeping it a secret. It’s just as many out there as there is men that do this too…………
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Miko
Says:
14 September 2008 at 8:24 am.
He’s gone and contradicted himself big time the poor dope…
He states the question, “Why don’t I just divorce my wife and I can do all of this stuff without hurting anyone?” And then says, “Because she’ll leave me and be hurt by it”.
The LEAVING HIM is the point! If he leaves her and does his sleeping around in the single life, he won’t have to worry about her leaving him because they’ll already be separated.
Duh~
What I think his r-e-a-l problem is, is that he’s using the security of his marriage as a scapegoat. He wants someone to come back to once every other female realizes that he’s not worth anything at all, and a place to stay once he’s spent all of his money on hookers, strippers, and expensive sluts.
Also, how dare he say he’s worried about anyone’s feelings at all?
Yesha was right when she said, “Typical sociopathic ["sociopath" being the keyword here seeing as men like this obviously have a mental/emotional problem] behavior. They never see the wrong in what they do, but they don’t want to look bad to others.”
Well said, Yesha. Well said.
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introspectivegoddess
Says:
14 September 2008 at 5:15 pm.
I think Miko just broke it down really. He just wants security and he knows he’s a f*cking loser but he can always come back to a stable household. If he has been doing that mess for five years I doubt his wife doesnt suspect something…she has probably just deluded herself into dealing with it. This is one of the sole reasons that I have an issue with marriage and think that I probably will never be married. His punk a$$ gonna say he dont want to hurt her….you have already went against your vows so whether she knows or not….you are still hurting her…BASTID!!! I hope his f*cking d*ck falls off!
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Keyshia Reply:
September 8th, 2008 at 1:04 am
Two wrong’s dont make a right. Just because women cheat does not give a man reason to do so or vice versa. The idea behind it is the same.
What i want to know is, do you think he’s right? Or do you think he’ll get away with it “forever”?
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Devone Reply:
September 8th, 2008 at 11:48 am
I never said 2 wrongs make a right. I just would like to hear from a female that cheats instead of hearing it from a man. Just wanted to know if the reasons are similar……
Nah never said he was right. I don’t know if he will get caught or not, depending on how much the female is willing to take. I’m sure she knows something is going on though.
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Keyshia Reply:
September 9th, 2008 at 8:47 am
Well, I guess from my point of view, when a woman cheats most of the time ist not about just getting ass. (This is just my point of view though) Mostly i think its about satisfying something deeper like maybe the intimacy she lacks with her main guy.
Here’s an example, most of the time when a guy is about to cheat, he does it purely for the sex. Its real easy for a guy to have sex with a woman and completely forget her name and face. Mostly when women cheat, like i said earlier, its so that they can satisfy something thats missing in their current relationship. And most women will easily name all the men they’ve been involved with from their first to their last, boyfriends to one night stands to whatever.
Basically, its easier for a woman to identify and treat her jump-off with some decency than a man … it may even develop into a serious relationship. Some guys also tend to be sensitive when it comes to this … but not in most cases.
BUT LETS NOT FORGET! Its wrong whether its done by a woman or a man. The circumstances dont make it any better either. Just because you’re unhappy doesnt mean you cant leave him/her and go start a new and better realtionship elsewhere.
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