14 October 2008
Do as I Say, NOT as I DO: The BOSSY CHICK
Posted by
Shieka
under:
HERstory .
One would think I would be give up on dating after reading all my stories. I guess I’m still keeping hope alive. I decided to post a personal ad on Craig’s List (CL). Yep, I did write CL. HE responded to my CL ad about two days after posted it. When he sent the first e-mail I thought he was talking in code, lol. I responded with “hmmmm ok? We exchanged a couple of e-mails and then he offered me his number. I reluctantly (making sure I blocked my number) called him and by the end of the conversation I was actually excited. We clicked…so much so that it was a “school night” and I was still talking to him at 12:30 AM! Then, I asked him when his last relationship ended.
*PAUSE*
*DEAD SILENCE*
He said his last relationship ended 9/11. I thought to myself, OMG, his girlfriend died on 9/11/2001! Then he corrected me, 9/11/2008. WTF? 2008? Then that’s when he admitted he still had a girlfriend. What in the world would possess a man who had a girlfriend to not only respond to my personal ad but also to talk to me over the phone. Let’s just say, it wasn’t pretty after I found out he had a girlfriend. He claimed he wanted to to tell me, but the words couldn’t quite make it out of his mouth. I ended the conversation and kept it moving. Honestly? I was really feeling him and was disappointed by what happened. A couple of days later I received the following e-mail from him:
Now I know I owe you no explanation, yet I felt the need to do so anyways. Umm…like where does one begin?! SMH…well have you ever conversed with someone and for some reason what your thinking doesn’t quite come out that way. LMAO…well in retrospect I can think of quite a few times in our last conversation where that occurred. As I tried to communicate to you before, I didn’t come at you with ill intent. I did not know what to expect. I had mentally prepared myself to be greeted by an invite to view a web cam/join some website. To say it was all surreal to me is grossly understated. I say that because from the onset it was like, “…wow, they are really cool peoples!” You had quipped…why when I found out that you were in fact an actual person was i not forthcoming. Well, I honestly felt like had i done so our conversation would not have gotten that far at all. Once again I apologize for not giving you the right to make that choice from the jump. But i half hoped that if i did not divulge that just yet that you would take a chance to get to know me as a person. I knew it were only a matter of time before that question had arose. It just so happened to come before what i felt would be an opportune time to (meaning after we befriended one another).
I blasted him in another e-mail response and thought that was it! Um…nope. He came back again yet a third time! He informed me that he was no longer in a relationship and wanted to start over. I was like, WTF? This man is persistent. I asked if this was a reality show in the works cause I couldn’t understand why this man was still after me! Well, I gave in and started speaking to him again! I admit he had my attention and I was trying to figure out what he wanted from me. While he claimed he never lied about anything, he did admit he withheld information from me. In order to get answers, I had to ask specific questions. Eventually I said I think we should leave each other a lone and explained I wasn’t comfortable with his decision to withhold pertinent information from me. In other words, he took away my options.
He asked to see me before we went out separate ways. WRONG thing to do! I already felt a connection to him before seeing him, what the hell was I doing meeting him in person? Well we met and that was it…WE continued pressed on…He described me as a breath of fresh air and looking back maybe I needed someone to say those words to me. Cause looking back now, it seems like a crock of sh*t.
I agreed to get to know who he was, not what was written about him on paper. Cause to be honest, he was EVERYTHING I didn’t want on paper. Like an optimistic fool, I allowed him to show me who he was. I started to like him, A LOT, but was suffering from a broken heart. We all know, the only thing that can mend a broken heart is time and a bottle of tequila! lol…Anyway, we had our moments and I will take responsibility for my actions. Our “relationship” started to go down hill when the man let off a machine gun fart in front of me. UGH yes, he let it rip. I was done! This was our second meeting and he just let it rip. It was UGLY, I was enraged. I admitted I may have overreacted and apologized…That wasn’t enough. I got a text message saying he saw a side of me that he didn’t like and he needed to distance himself from me.
YES! You are reading that correctly. He FARTS, I react, and I get the boot. IT DIDN’T end there! I told him how I felt about him and the situation and he responded with?
I think you’re too BOSSY and it wouldn’t work out between us…
For a split second I entertained this madness…and then I came to my senses…BOSSY? FOR REAL? HMMM ok…The only thing I admitted to was being a SARCASTIC chick who was VERY confident in her demeanor. If you can’t tell the difference between sarcasm and me being real…that’s on YOU! I eventually blasted him for pulling one of those “DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO.” He spent weeks trying to convince to to get to know him and two days to convince me I was something I’m not. Hmmm….Oh Well, Back to the drawing board. I BE THAT BOSSY CHICK!
11 Comments so far...
Becca
Says:
15 October 2008 at 4:30 pm.
I find it to be disgusting and disrespectful for people to just bust a** in front of eachother, especially after only knowing eachother for a short period of time. I don’t blame you for losing it, I would have too!
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Becca
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15 October 2008 at 10:32 pm.
It’s funny, cause I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and he still doesn’t pass gas in front of me, unfortunately..I alwaysd know when he’s about too because he jumps out of bed and goes running for the bathroom..lmao! Cracks me up everytime!
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introspectivegoddess
Says:
16 October 2008 at 12:19 am.
I hate to say it, but I have to keep it real. You played yourself with this one. Especially after reading that first email and him saying that he planned on telling you he had a girl only after you “befriended” him. Which says to me that he was gonna prolong it as much as possible, not tell you at all, or tell you but know that you liked him too much to stay away. There should have been NO MEETING for him to even let go of the putrid,noisome, foul air that escaped from his trifling ass. He was so backhanded about this entire situation, he played this shit like a sociopath or some shit like fa real please hun do not take what that fool said to heart ….and be real careful with CL, that shit is a breeding ground for weirdos….
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introspectivegoddess
Says:
16 October 2008 at 12:20 am.
I hate to say it, but I have to keep it real. You played yourself with this one. Especially after reading that first email and him saying that he planned on telling you he had a girl only after you “befriended” him. Which says to me that he was gonna prolong it as much as possible, not tell you at all, or tell you but know that you liked him too much to stay away. There should have been NO MEETING for him to even let go of the putrid,noisome, foul air that escaped from his trifling ass. He was so backhanded about this entire situation, he played this shit like a sociopath or some shit like fa real please hun do not take what that fool said to heart ….and be real careful with CL, that shit is a breeding ground for weirdos….
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Esha
Says:
16 October 2008 at 9:28 am.
LMAO! I still can’t get over this one..so freaking hilarious! his nasty ass..no home training, well we know where he got the ‘training’ from..lol
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Keyshia
Says:
17 October 2008 at 1:26 am.
Looooool!! I find that sequence of events real funny … He farts, you react then you get booted 
lmao
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Shieka Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 7:55 am
YOU KNOW! lol…like I said, it took me some time to realize what was really taking place…then was like WTF? um, ok….wow…RIGHT…there’s more to the story…I would have to tell you off-line. Unlike you know who, he wasn’t a monster…so I’m going to give him a pass…
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Keyshia Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 1:44 am
Oooooh! By the way, what happened to HIM? Any chance he took a long walk off a pier? I’ll be waiting for you offline with a martini in hand.
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Shieka Reply:
October 15th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Thank you! This was our SECOND meeting and I was FLOORED…
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