In an effort to keep sane throughout the year, I try to get away from DC as much as I can. Last weekend, I found myself in ATL again. I know I’ve complained about the lack of straight men there, however, I always have a fabulous time hanging with my girlfriends and laughing at the madness in ATL. I arrived in ATL late Thursday night.
I had an appointment with, as B. Scott says, the doctor at 8am on Friday. When I made the appointment, I didn’t realize how early that was! I was so tired when I got there, however, was very pleased with the results. The doctor performed surgery with precision! Please see the evidence:
The rest of the day was spent eating, my favorite past time, and just relaxing. I was so tired from my trip I fell a sleep early.
Saturday I did what I shouldn’t have done. SHOP! It was Columbus day weekend, so you know there were sales. Banana Republic Finally got my attention. I walked in and walked out with some goodies. I haven’t really shopped in BR in LONG time. Primarily due to the fact that I thought they were becoming too trendy. Unlike J. Crew, CLASSIC, CLASSIC, CLASSICA. I know, I know, I’m a J. Crew Whore, but I cheated on J. Crew with BR last weekend. PLEASE, don’t tell J. Crew!
Flash forward to Sunday….We ate brunch at Flying Biscuit in ATL and saw something HILARIOUS! Please feast your eyes on THIS:
WHY? That’s all I asked when I saw IT. Can you see “IT” looking towards the camera? I tried to snap the picture before IT realized what I was doing. UGH…um, YEA! After we ate brunch, we made our way over to a tail gate party at the Georgia Dome. I’ve NEVER been to a tail gate party. I had a FABULOUS time. There was a $10 cover to for the event. My girlfriend and I decided to check out the other tail gate parties happening around the Dome.
Then we saw it…CRACKHEADS on ice. I’ve never laughed so hard in my life. Grown men trying to break dance (I think). Fortunately I got it on tape, unfortunately, it wasn’t a lot of footage. Kids, please pay attention to the man in the black shirt. CRACK KILLS!
In this age of technology and social networking, internet dating has become a very lucrative business. Every day there’s a new Match, E-Harmony, Yahoo Personals popping up on the internet. There is even ‘niche’ dating sites, if your tastes reflected around interracial dating you can find that, or if you’re into the big & beautiful, yup there’s a site for you too.
Nowadays, you don’t have to leave you house to find a date or a quick hook up. You can go the free route with Craigslist, or pay the subscription fees that other sites charge. Either way, the dating world is basically at the tips of your fingertips.
But is there a quality v. quantity issue in regards to internet dating? In the DC area, it’s not uncommon to run across someone who knows someone else that you’ve met, coupled with the internet, the chances of dating someone your girlfriend or guy friend has dating, is pretty much bound to happen. It’s like a pokemon trading game. You have to pass a photo around to a female friend and ask, “Do you know him? Have you dated him?”. LMAO!
So, my question is, if you’ve done the internet dating thing, what is your biggest complaint? If you haven’t ventured out to find a date via the internet, what is your main reason in not doing so?
I’m sure everyone has seen Chris Matthew’s Dateline series, To Catch A Predator. There’s always some dumb pedophile being caught with his pants down (literally) while they’ve been trying to solicit sex from minors via the internet. It never ceases to amaze me, that after the airing of these shows, there are men/women out there who insist on trolling the internet to lure young boys & girls.
Last night I was speaking with a friend who is no stranger to online dating. We were discussing how she’s noticed the same men on just about every dating site there could possibly be. The same men are on Match.com, Yahoo Personals, E-Harmony (those commercials crack me up), Black People Meet, BlackPlanet and even Adult Friend Finder.
These men are the new version of “INTERNET PREDATORS”.
Half of them aren’t even original with the information they place on these sites, what you’ll notice is that everything is just copied & pasted from one profile to another. They’ve definitely given up on the concept of originality.
The first question she told me she usually asks a guy, is if they’ve met anyone offline before. Now, you’d think one would tell the truth about that question. Right. Wrong. For the most part, the same men she’s seen on other sites, are the ones who always claim that they’ve never met anyone from an online dating site. I truly find that hard to believe. If you’re on several sites at one time, what’s the point in being on them if you’re not meeting women?
Even when I caught my own ex on Adult Friend Finder and even read the emails that he was sending women, when I asked him the who/what/when/where/why’s…he immediately denied any wrong doing. Even after I discovered his profile and set up a dummy profile to bust him, we were literally in two different rooms in his house corresponding with each other via the dummy profile, he set up a meeting/date time, he even showed up to meet this ‘dummy’ profile person; when I confronted him, he denied any wrong doing still.
Personally, I think some men are addicted to internet dating only because it takes little to no effort. A man will send a woman an email, she responds, you exchange phone numbers and possibly hook-up with in a matter of days…and if they’re copying & pasting the same email to more than one women, that’s just about every day of the week covered with women.
But of course, the lie they’ll always use is, “No, I’ve never met anyone from the internet”.
Can someone please figure out how to add another day to my weekend? I seriously feel as though I go to sleep on a Friday night, then I wake up it’s already Monday!! This past weekend actually started on Thursday, so I guess I should be appreciative of my extra day off. After the emotionally stressful Thursday night convo with the on-again/off-again, I needed an extra day to recoup. So I decided to play hookey from work on Friday and spend the day with the one who caused me the emotional stress, go figure.
Friday morning, I spent time getting lost trying to find my way to Reagan International airport. Thanks to crappy mapquest, I succeeded in getting lost. Luckily, I was only a few minutes late than my ETA of 11 a.m. Of course Mr. On/Again-Off/Again’s flight actually landed 20 minutes earlier than expected. When he got in the car and I smelled his cologne and saw his oh so sexy 5-o’clock shadow, I realized getting lost was definitely worth it.
We decided NOT to continue the previous night’s conversation, that addressed certain issues we’ve been throwing under the carpet for the past few months, but to just enjoy the day together and relax. Eventually, we made it back to his house to drop off his luggage and to figure out how we would spend the rest of the day. Honestly, I only had one thing on my mind, but as usual, aunt flow was in town so that was a whole lot of not happening. But I was treated to a full body massage and a hot bath in the jacuzzi. Relaxation was definitely needed. From the massage, I could feel the tension rising from my body. Eventually we fell asleep but woke up just in time to figure out what to do before rush hour.
Neither one of us felt like dealing with downtown DC traffic, so we headed to the National Harbor, to walk around and just talk. It felt like old times again as we walked down the pier and found a seat and sat there for a few hours just talking and laughing. Eventually we decided that it was time to eat, so we chose Rosa Mexicano which was having it’s opening day. The meal was excellent! I would definitely recommend it, if you’re looking for an upscale, authentic Mexican restaurant. Although I’m not normally a pork eater, I had to take a piece of his braised pork. It literally melted in my mouth!
After dinner, we couldn’t decide if we wanted to head to Outback for my favorite desert, The Chocolate Thunder From Down Under, or head over to Cake Love, which also just opened up at the National Harbor. Cake Love won my vote. They have the best cupcakes EVER! So we took home a box of four assorted cupcakes. At room temperature, they make the perfect treat, that’s if you can remind yourself not to think about the calories each one has.
The night eventually ended with us falling asleep around 9 p.m, which is quite early for the both of us. But after Thursday’s emotional roller coaster of texting, emailing and tear filled phone calls and traveling, I think both of us were drained physically and emotionally.
It still amazes me how some women react when the “OTHER” woman reaches out and says “I’ve been sleeping with your man, or your man has been trying to holler at me, etc” or something else a long those lines. Now, depending on how the conversation goes down, you can do a couple of things, curse the other woman out, go find her and beat her up (yep, this still happens), ignore her and support your man, or listen to what she has to say (usually the last thing women do). Keep in mind ladies, we don’t always know what the man is telling the other woman, I think we owe it to ourselves to listen. I know it may be hard especially if the other woman is calling you a b*tch. So my question to you is:
If another female reached out to you and said “your boyfriend’s been sleeping with me, “hollering” at me, etc, what would you do?
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